A Psychologist Explains Why It’s Better to Stop Kissing Your Children on the Lips

There is always a debate on how you should or should not raise a child. Many people do many things differently and sometimes even celebrities get caught on the subject of parenting. 

One of the debates started when Victoria Beckham posted a picture of her kissing her daughter on the lips. Many questioned if it is okay to kiss children on the lips. The people on the internet are always quick to others and that exactly happened in this case. Victoria got shamed for kissing her own kid whom she gave birth to. There were many fans on the internet who also supported her by saying that why people want to sexualize a warm expression of love.

However, while shaming a parent for their expression of love is wrong there are some factors and concerns that are genuine and should not be ignored. 

There are some phycologists who believe that it can be Harmful to kids health-wise, Physical or emotional.


It can shift the kid’s understanding of personal boundaries.


Kids learn from what is happening around them. According to psychologist Charlotte Reznick When you kiss a child on the lips, you show them that their body border is open and that someone can intrude into their territory with no problem. 

Many other activities like tight swaddling, force-feeding, and aggressive tickling also come under the same category. It is important to teach kids to say no and own their personal space. 


It’s unsanitary.

Kissing a kid on the lips can be pretty unsanitary for kids. Many Doctors and especially dentists talk about a large number of microbes in an adult’s mouth that may not affect them. But if it is transmitted to children it can be harmful to them because their immune system is weaker than an adult.

The child may start kissing other people on the lips as an expression of love.

It is possible for a child to think that it is okay to kiss anyone they want to show their love to. They might try to repeat the same gesture with others, without realizing the intimate implication of this gesture. 

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